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Desiderata by Max Ehrmann

In Attitude, Books, Excerpt, Poetry, Quotes on July 13, 2012 at 4:14 pm

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Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1927.

Max Ehrmann (1872-1945) was an American lawyer and poet who wrote the Desiderata in 1927. He wrote in his diary,in relation to it;

” I should like if I could, to leave a humble gift- a bit of chaste prose that had caught up some humble moods.”

Desiderata is translated from Latin as “desired things”. It is an inspirational message of faith and hope. During WWII it was estimated that about 1000 copies were distributed by Merill Moore, a U.S Army psychatrist with the objective of helping soldiers with their treatment.

The Desiderata was also used on posters during the ” Make Peace, Not War” movement of the 1960’s, and also has been recorded to music.

It has mistakenly been claimed to have been found in “Old St. Pauls’s Church, Baltimore” in 1692, however Ehrmanns’ family has proved copyright.

Desiderata- Stanza by Stanza. Part 5

In Attitude, Books, Excerpt, Poetry, Quotes on July 3, 2012 at 4:17 pm

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Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

Hopefully, as we grow older we will have some wisdom and have learnt from our mistakes- or maybe not! Maybe we keep making mistakes and misjudgments, maybe it is immaturity and the way the young have the luxury of thinking they are immortal. When we are young we can fantasize about a perfect life, neglect ourselves and our loved ones and take risks with a more blase attitude. With a little age,experience and wisdom we know that life is short and impermanent. Some times there is no second chance, no do-overs and all things, good and bad will pass.

Knowing the concept “This too shall pass” is a good mantra to strengthen your spirit when things seem too hard and to remind yourself to enjoy the good times while they last. This realisation brings us back to the moment, as it IS, not with worry and anxiety over what might happen and how things could get worse. We could think about what we are experiencing right now with gratitude, as maybe things could be better but they could be worse. We can see that we can handle this moment and then handle the next, as it comes. Oh, grant me this wisdom!

I will have to be patient with myself for being a slow learner and so sensitive and anxious. I will continue to take baby steps along the path and keep my eyes on the path. Being gentle with ourselves is hard. We often are more forgiving of others than we are of ourselves. I think that looking at our mistakes and faults with a little objectivity rather than beating ourselves up may be the key to learning from our mistakes and breaking negative patterns.

Finding some peace with ourselves and some peace of mind means we can look forward, improve ourselves while accepting ourselves.

Desiderata- Stanza by Stanza. Part 3

In Attitude, Quotes on June 20, 2012 at 12:43 am

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Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Your ‘career’ is whatever you do in your daily life and whatever that may be is important. A parent who stays at home and cares for the family and house, a person who serves at the deli counter and helps and infirm parent with their meals and laundry, a bank manager, a teacher- it is all useful and necessary and if we see it that way and put in our best effort it is blessed work.

Take care that you are treated fairly, you are deserving of your rights. Know your business, your finances, the legal rights regarding your employer or your landlord,etc, and also your personal rights. Protect yourself and stand up for yourself. If you can find worth in yourself and your daily tasks, you will have the self esteem to ensure you are treated fairly and well.

Still trust in others who show they honour you. We need the help and support of others, it is a great gift to give and recieve help. If you look for the good in people and are open to their grace, you will often find it. Most people are good hearted and giving, a crisis shows us this. When a community hears of a family facing health or financial troubles, or if there is a natural disaster we see the human spirit rally in its’ basic need for connection to others and the urge to ease the suffering of others, and people feel compelled to help in anyway they can. Many people have been in the position of giving more than they can afford, or even risking their safety for the sake of helping a fellow human.

Seek goodness and acknowledge it. Accept goodwill and give it too.

Desiderata- Stanza by Stanza. Part 2

In Attitude, Quotes on June 14, 2012 at 5:54 am

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Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans
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Sometimes we can’t physically avoid loud and aggressive people, you may live with one, work with one, they can be everywhere, at the supermarket, on the train, even blaring out of the radio or television.

Mentally being able to avoid noise or agression is my aim. How? Daydream, go within, practise mindfullness, concentrate on breathing deeply, strive to attract peace and positivity by emitting peace and positivity. Above all, try not to let aggression or anything said to you or about you that is negative affect your mood or how you feel about yourself. Find a way not to take it personally.

Not letting anothers’ opinion drag you down takes self-esteem. If we have a belief of not being enough, then the words and actions of others will matter too much. Without anyone saying a word, without even knowing someone we can feel inadequate because their life seems better. Even when think we are better than someone else, it is our lack of self-esteem trying to boost itself. If we compare ourselves to others, when someone is always better off or worse off, we will never measure up. It is a judgement of them too.

Self-esteem is accepting the way we are right now, strengths and weaknesses, and still being able to set goals for improvement, and strive for these goals honourably. We can take pleasure in our strengths and achievements in a gracious manner. False modesty does not show gratitude for our gifts and blessings. We accept ourselves and others as worthy when we have a healthy self-esteem.

Can anyone share any advice for either avoiding agression or building self-esteem? Please leave a comment.