Films, Books, Musings-With the Glamour of Old Hollywood and the Flair of the Retro

Desiderata- Stanza by Stanza. Part 4

In Attitude on June 25, 2012 at 1:25 pm


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Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Be yourself? Who are you? Who am I?
If you have been a people pleaser, one who gives in to keep the peace, one who is too shy or scared to go against the crowd, you may not be sure who you are and what you stand for, what your strengths are and where your faults lie. You may not know your ‘self’ until you stop with the automatic ‘yes’s’ and think ‘what do I think about this?’ and ‘what do I want?’ and then follow through on that and whatever consequence that brings.

You may have everyone thinking that everything is o.k or the relationship is going along just fine or what they say and do is perfectly acceptable because you put on a happy face and take it.
If you let every mistreatment slide, if you do things against your will, or just go with the flow constantly without ever asserting you needs and wants, then you are not showing much faith in yourself or others. It shows lack of self-esteem and insecurity about accepting yourself and your needs and opinions as important. It shows lack of faith in others in that you think ‘they’ won’t like you if you are not compliant or are different or even an imperfect human.

Maybe if you show yourself more genuinely, some people won’t agree with you, or won’t like you. The people who are happy being pleased at your expense are draining and probably not so giving of themselves to you, and will probably move on when the free ride stops, or their ego is not being massaged.

The people who truly love and/or respect you will find a way to accept you and support you as you really are, and you will know who you can trust and rely upon. To believe this is possible will help you lower your defenses and find your authentic self and show it. To find relationships with people who offer this acceptance and to find unconditional love are lifes’ most valuable treasures.


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