Films, Books, Musings-With the Glamour of Old Hollywood and the Flair of the Retro

Desiderata- Stanza by Stanza. Part 2

In Attitude, Quotes on June 14, 2012 at 5:54 am


Nature Stock Photos by

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans

Sometimes we can’t physically avoid loud and aggressive people, you may live with one, work with one, they can be everywhere, at the supermarket, on the train, even blaring out of the radio or television.

Mentally being able to avoid noise or agression is my aim. How? Daydream, go within, practise mindfullness, concentrate on breathing deeply, strive to attract peace and positivity by emitting peace and positivity. Above all, try not to let aggression or anything said to you or about you that is negative affect your mood or how you feel about yourself. Find a way not to take it personally.

Not letting anothers’ opinion drag you down takes self-esteem. If we have a belief of not being enough, then the words and actions of others will matter too much. Without anyone saying a word, without even knowing someone we can feel inadequate because their life seems better. Even when think we are better than someone else, it is our lack of self-esteem trying to boost itself. If we compare ourselves to others, when someone is always better off or worse off, we will never measure up. It is a judgement of them too.

Self-esteem is accepting the way we are right now, strengths and weaknesses, and still being able to set goals for improvement, and strive for these goals honourably. We can take pleasure in our strengths and achievements in a gracious manner. False modesty does not show gratitude for our gifts and blessings. We accept ourselves and others as worthy when we have a healthy self-esteem.

Can anyone share any advice for either avoiding agression or building self-esteem? Please leave a comment.

  1. The poem advises to ‘avoid’ them, but as you say we can’t always physically avoid loud and agressive people, depending on our particular life or work situations. But neither can we allow them to crush our spirit by being the way they are. I’m not one to give advice to anybody, but for me personally, I think it is about making clear “I” statements….. eg.. ‘I would prefer you to not raise your voice around me’……. ‘I would like for you to speak to me when you are calmer’…… ‘I find the way you are speakig right now very intimidating.’. I think there is a line in the Desideratia somewhere about speaking your truth calmly or clearly?? That would relate and apply here. It helps in naming and holding up the behaviour to the person who is being loud/aggressive. We can also intentionally choose to try to not allow the negative behaviour to disturb our inner peace. This isn’t always easy, but the practices you’ve mentioned above I think are likely to be helpful..

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: